How I’m Feeling on the Day my Baby Turns Two

Having the ability to document our past two years with Liam in photos and videos has been both a blessing and a curse. As I sat around last week, updating his baby book, I realized I barely recognized the baby in the photos staring back at me. Yes his smile is the same. Those big brown eyes are the same. But that little bald head, chubby thighs, and squishy belly seem like such a distant memory. As I hold on to the memories from the past two years,  I am also so excited about the silly, beautiful two year old that he has become.

Liam on his first birthday. Feb 14, 2017

If this is what the terrible twos are, I will take it every single day! Our sweet boy who does everything at one speed: fast, making photoshoots with a balloon nearly impossible but he somehow found a way to keep us laughing the entire time.  He moves with a purpose and is so passionate about everything that he does. When he is sad or hurt, he cries and does it in a way that everyone in the room knows it. But when he is happy, he lights up a room in a way that I didn’t know a toddler was capable of.
Here are just a few of the things I never want to forget about Liam at two years old:

  • How for the longest time you referred to yourself as “baby,” even if we corrected you and told you your name was Liam. And then suddenly one day you started calling yourself Liam and it nearly broke my heart!
  • How you always say “bless you, mama” every time I sneeze as if you’ve been telling me this your entire life.
  • How you love to talk.  If I say “milk,” you say “hot milk” and  then I say “ok, hot milk” and you say “hot milk in cup.” Always trying to get the last word in like a true Terzo.
  • How you run to me and throw your arms around my legs anytime you fall or bump your elbow, even though you knows it doesn’t hurt. But just because you need me to know that it happened.
  • Your hair. That curly mop on top of your head that I drives me crazy, but I won’t dare cut.
  • How you say “goodbye Vana” at the end of Wheel of Fortune each night. Who even taught you her name?!
  • How you still want daddy to read you a book before bed, followed by mommy singing you your favorite songs. I hope your love for reading and music stay around for a long, long time.

Photo Details: Balloon from Cannonborough Collective in Charleston // pants: Old Navy // birthday dude shirt: Ily Couture. com

Two Amazing Years of Liam: A Video Blog

Liam turning two has  hit me harder than I thought. I’ve been fighting the urge to dress him in onesies and rock him to sleep every night. But also embracing the fact that he can now tell me with words what he wants, he can independently get himself a snack out of the kitchen, and he finds ways to make me laugh every single day. These past two years have been filled with so many fun and wonderful memories and  I was somehow able to narrow two years down into a 2 minute and 57 second video. I hope you will enjoy this video recap of our past two years with Liam as much as I have enjoyed making it. Don’t forget to subscribe to our YouTube channel so you can catch all new videos!

a DIY Dining Room Makeover

Over the past ten years of living in this house, I have stared at this dining room and felt like something was off. Unlike many homes where the dining room is set off to the side and you fight off the urge to create a home gym or craft room, our dining room is smack in the center of the house and a main focal point of the entire layout. But I could never put my finger on what I didn’t like about the room. But after multiple carpets and wall color changes, I finally realized what really needed the makeover: the table. 

So here is the back story of this table: When I first bought this house in 2008, I owned nothing more than an air bed and few random K-Mart bookcases. My parents generously handed me down their old dining room table, which had been handed down to them in the 80s. It’s a fine table. Solid wood but with a lament wood top. It was the table that I grew up with. I have memories of sitting around this table for family dinners: watching my younger my brother doing his homework and pressing down so hard with his pencil that the word “monkey” became engraved into it.  And another time watching my little sister having a tantrum and slashing the top of the table with a butter knife. Good times. But ever since moving this table into my house, I have tried to find ways to decorate this room around the table. And it never really quite fit. Until suddenly I realized maybe it wasn’t the color of the room that needed changing, perhaps it was the color of the table. So with two weeks and the tiniest of budgets, I finally got a “new” dining room table.IMG_7677

Here are some “before”photos to give you a good look at the table in it’s original glory. Let’s take a moment to remember the sweet boom box on top of a  plastic K-mart bookshelf.Then there was the time I decided to go bold and paint the room a smoked orange color. You know, to match the poop brown rung I found on clearance at Home Depot. What was I thinking?!

I finally wised up and painted the walls a light color (Benjamin Moore “Paper White”)  and added a DIY stenciled rug. The rug was a fun project, but because the rug was el-cheapo, my cat and dogs tore this rug up in under a year. But as you can see, the table still didn’t seem to fit in.And here we are now.

  Here are the steps I took to re-do the table:

  1. Strip the old paint off the table. I used Citristrip Stripping Gel because it can be used indoors. I says to let is sit only for an hour or two but I let it sit over night and still had to put some elbow grease while scraping off the old paint.
  2. Sand the table with a fine grit sandpaper.
  3. Use wood filler to fill in any holes or scratches that were too big/too deep to sand out.
  4. Stain the table using Miniwax Wood Finish Stain. I used “classic gray.” I did two coats but I wiped off immediately (with an old white towel) after brushing on so that it could really penetrate into the wood and also not come out so dark.
  5.  Once the stain as dried now you can “white wash.” I am not sure if that is the technically term, but let’s roll with it. I had an old can of white ceiling paint so I mixed half white paint/half water and used long brush strokes following the grain of the wood. Again, I did two coats and wiped off in between.
  6. Using fine grit sandpaper again, now here is where you have some creative freedom to distress as you would like. I decided to do some light distressing on the top of the table to show more white in some areas than others. But also some harder distressing along the edge of the table to let some of the original wood to peak through!
  7. Paint the legs and chairs white. I primed the legs and chairs using a Chalk Paint Spray Paint. Then followed up with two coats of the same random white paint I had leftover in the garage.
  8.  Coat the top of the table and the legs with a Wipe-on Poly Max. I used this brand. Of course I had to include a photo with Liam’s booster chair, because #reallife. But to be honest most meals, I still throw on a table cloth to protect my newest masterpiece. Let me know if you have any questions about what I did or how I did it. I am no expert, but I love talking about these things! Enjoy your week! Priscilla

Wandering Through Coastal Maine: A Travel Itinerary

This long cold winter has me longing for hotter temperatures. Although, ironically last spring we jumped on a plane headed north in an effort to get AWAY from the hot South Carolina weather. Funny how we always seem to want what we don’t have. Whatever the case, last spring we found ourselves on a trip up the coast of Maine. And ever since  we returned, I have had friends ask the same two questions: What is the best time of year to visit Maine? And how did it go traveling with a baby? So I am happy to finally share our itinerary, some photos of our trip, and how we did it all with a 16 month old.  IMG_6252First Stop:  Portland

 What we did: 

  • walk around Old Port Area
  • Victoria Mansion (we just drove by and saw it. Decided not to take the tour).
  • walk around the Portland Fish Exchange and Harbor Fish Market
  • Maine Narrow Gauge Railroad tour and train ride along the Eastern Promenade trail (only $3 per adult and such a fun way to see the E. Promenade)
  • Portland Breakwater Lighthouse – outside of the city, need a rental car to get here.
  • Portland Head Lighthouse and Goddard Mansion at Fort Williams Park
  • side trip to Freeport – shopped at the LL Bean Flagship Store and Outlet

Where we ate:

  • the Lobster Shack at Two Lights State park
  • Holy Donuts for breakfast/snack
  • Bite into ME food truck – our favorite lobster rolls the entire trip was here!
  • Margaritas Mexican – typical Mexican cuisine but was open late and good comfort food after a late flight.

Where we stayed:  the Inn at St John. 933 Congress St. Beautiful rooms, free continental breakfast, and one of the few inns in town that allows children.IMG_6462IMG_6492Next Stop: Acadia National Park and Bar Harbor

What we did: 

  • Bass Harbor Head Lighthouse 
  • walked the Shore Path in Bar Harbor near Agamont Park
  • walked around downtown Bar Harbor for ice cream
  • Park Loop Road (27 mile drivable loop starting at Hull Visitor Center)
    • Beaver Dam Pond- a small, round pond accessible from a road pull-off.
    • Egg Rock Overlook
    • Sand Beach- easy parking area and quick walk to the beach
    • Hike the Ocean Path Trail – 3 mi round trip along the coast
    • Thunder Hole
    • Otter Cliff
    • Jordan’s Pond Nature Trail – we hiked about 1/3 of the way and then walked back.
    • Bubble Rock Trail – longer hike but beautiful view at the top
  • drive up to Cadillac Mountain summit, park and get out for beautiful views of Bar Harbor.

Where we ate:

  • lunch at Jordan Pond House in Acadia (soups, lobster rolls, popovers, tea)
  • Take-A-Break Cafe at the college for a fast and inexpensive breakfast
  • breakfast at Jordan’s Resturant in Bar Harbor (amazing blueberry pancakes)
  • Dinner at C Ray’s (casual picnic table style lobster rolls)

Where we stayed:  Edenbook Motel in Bar Harbor. No frill, no breakfast, but allows children, has a crib, and is budget friendly and very close to Acadia.  IMG_6194IMG_6218

Next Stop: Various Coastal Towns 

What we did: 

  • Ellsworth –  stopped at Big Chicken Barn Books. Will loves a used book store.
  • Blue Hill- played at the playground on the harbor on Water Street
  • Bucksport– stop and visit the Penobscot Narrows Bridge observatory tower
  • Searsport– drive through and see the small town
  • Belfast- drive through the downtown
  • Lincolnville – drive through or stop at the beach area near McGlaughlin’s
  • Camden- Camden Hills State Park, drove the “Prettiest Walk in the World,” and stopped to pet the belted Galloway cows at Aldermere Farm
  • Rockland- park and see the windjammer fleet on Samoset Rd
  • Rockland Breakwater Lighthouse

Where we ate:

  • Bagaduce Lunch in Penobscot on the river
  • McGlaughlin’s Lobster Shack in Lincolnville
  • Young’s Lobster Pound in Belfast

(if you’re wondering why it looks like we ate lobster rolls three times in one day, its because we did.)IMG_6368

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Next Stop: Boothbay and Pemaquid Peninsulas

What we did:

  • Pemaquid Point Lighthouse – walking distance from our hotel
  • Boothbay Harbor- walk around downtown, toured the small but quaint aquarium
  • New Harbor – went on the Hardy Boat cruise out to Egg Rock to see the puffins! Book this in advance. So much fun despite a bit of sea sickness!

Where we ate: 

  • breakfast at the SeaGull Restaurant next to the Pemaquid lighthouse.
  • lunch at Red Eats in Wiscasset for lobster rolls- cash only and expect a long wait time. Good lobster rolls but not the best we had this trip. 
  • Dinner at Shaw’s Fish and Lobster Warf next to Hardy Boat cruise boat landing

Where we stayed: Hotel Pemaquid: 3098 Bristol Rd, New Harbor, ME. Allowed children, but did not have a crib or pack-n-play so this night was a little rough sharing the bed. But your options on Pemaquid Peninsula are very limited. IMG_5497Tips on Traveling to Maine with a baby:

  • Call ahead far in advance to reserve lodging as many of the hotels and bed and breakfasts that I called did not allow children.
  • There is so much sight seeing that can be done via car. Take advance of babies who nap in the car seat and plan for that to be your driving time.
  • We also ate a lot of our meals (lobster rolls to-go!) in the car (or sitting on the hood of the car in the sun) while the baby slept. Don’t waste your time trying to plan nice dining at indoors restaurants. So much of Maine’s best dining is casual, laid back, and order at the counter.
  • There are many great hikes in Acadia that are short and not too strenuous. Consider doing these if you will be hiking with a 20+ lb baby on your back. We liked the Ocean Path Trail and the Jordan Pond Nature Trail.
  • As much fun as sight seeing and hiking can be for adults, remember that it can be equally boring for a baby or toddler. Take breaks at parks, playgrounds, or aquariums. Also look for a local library for a fun and familiar wind down moment for baby. We found a great local library in Boothbay Harbor to rest and read a few books before we ventured on.
  • For more tips and tricks on flying with a baby, check out this post I did here: skirtmagazine.com

When to travel to Coastal Maine: We decided to travel in the month of June and I am so glad we did. Maine is at peak wildflower season and I could not get over all the beautiful colors along the side of the road, in fields, and along the water’s edge. (The lupins were my favorite.) We had friends travel in August and they informed us that the wildflowers were pretty much gone by then. And for being the middle of June, we had not a single issue with too-many-tourists, as we have in other places we’ve traveled.  So if seeing wildflowers and perfect temperatures (highs in the 70s) is what you are seeking, I would shoot for May or June.  As for the winter months, we are not snow bunnies, nor do I think any of the famous skiing and snow actives take place along Coastal Maine (you’ll want to head Northwest towards Sugarloaf for that), so November-March was pretty much out for us. Fall would also be beautiful to see the leaves change, I predict somewhere between Sept- October but I have never experienced this in Maine myself. Maybe we will try that on our next trip up to Maine!

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For more scenes from our trip, check out the video I put together on Youtube. This has become one of Liam’s favorite “family” Youtube Videos to watch and he asks to watch “home” all the time. I have to correct him that “home” is South Carolina and not Maine. He’s not even two yet so cut him some slack. But thanks to my little music editor, I’ll have to choose a better song on my next travel video!

Message me or comment if you have any questions about our trip! xoxo Priscilla

 

 

 

 

New year + new blog adventures

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Hello friends, family, and followers! You may have noticed a little change to the blog. After many weeks of deliberating, I have decided to change my blog name. Fashion and Fishing. com was something I created in 2012 when all of our spare time was spent obsessing over sewing (me) and fishing (Will). And yes we still love those two things deeply! But as we continue to go through life, our marriage, our travels, raising Liam to be a kind and thoughtful little boy, and continuing work on building and growing our family, I have discovered that my priorities have shifted and thus I decided to have my blog’s name reflect that.

So welcome to the new blog (thehopefulwanderers.com).   Hopefully this blog will reflect more of who we are now: A little (but kinda big) family who is navigating through life one day and one adventure at a time. Who has struggled with challenges these past few years but always remains hopeful. And a family of homebodies who craves a Friday night of sewing and the smell of pluff mud on our shoes, but also longs for an adventure on the road. A family of hopeful wanderers.

You will still see lots of sewing and DIY project because #cantstopwontstop but I also hope to share more of my writing, more stories on our adventures with infertility and parenthood, some really fun video blogs as I have found a new passion for videography (hmmm wonder where that gene came from), and hopefully more travel posts and videos because as we wander through life, I am lucky to get the chance from time to time to wander to other amazing places around globe with my two boys.

Thank you for reading this far and for (hopefully) enjoying the blog. If you have any thing you want me to talk/blog/video/write about, shoot me a message, I am all ears!

– Priscilla

PS- if you’re feeling like you have 3 minutes to spare, check out this video and give us a little thumbs up on YouTube! xoxo

A very late Christmas Vlog

Hey everyone! Merry Christmas or errrr happy Martin Luther King Junior Day. Okay, wait that’s already passed too, so let’s just say happy everything. Each year the holidays seem to come and go at lightning speed and this year was no exception. Between all of our families in town, some very anticipated doctor appointments, followed by a disappointing and heartache end to our year (more on that later), it felt like there wasn’t much to time to think about blogging. But I’m back and looking forward to sharing more of my adventures. I found in 2017 that I really enjoyed making short videos and so I hope to continuing doing so this year and sharing the videos of our travels and other special occasions. So in between the past few weeks filled with snow days and endless Thomas the Train books, I found time to whip together this video recap of Christmas with our Terzo family.

This Christmas was exceptionally cold for Charleston, but as usual the presents seemed endless, the laughter from all the children was contagious, and the food seemed to never stop. I hope you all had a wonderful holiday season and can’t wait to see what 2018 brings! Enjoy the video!

And if you liked the video, make sure you subscribe to my YouTube channel by clicking here! thanks in advance! xxoo

God Lives in Petri Dishes too

This blog post first appeared in skirt! magazine’s blog as a contributing blog post. Enjoy!

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When I first wrote the title of this article, I stopped and thought to myself, Come on Priscilla, you’re in the south. You can’t talk about God in skirt! Magazine. But then I realized, that statement is one of the many reasons why women shy from talking about infertility. God. If you have read my blog posts or other pieces on skirt! you may recall that I am aware of the religious stigma that other people might feel about fertility treatment. But as a huge fan of modern science and the overwhelming drive towards motherhood, I have long casted aside any “fertility treatment shaming” that may come my way.

My husband and I have recently begun talking with our fertility doctor about the next step for our family. After having been blessed with a perfect, healthy baby boy, the idea of giving him the gift of a sibling, and expanding our little wolf pack, makes us smile from cheek to cheek. But we know we will not be able to go at it alone.  But luckily, we have our little embryo #2 frozen in a petri dish for whenever we are ready for him. Or her.

Last month, I was at a dinner party discussing motherhood and pregnancy with some of my girlfriends, like one does of course. It always makes me wonder what the heck I used to talk about when I was in my twenties. The weather? Netflix? Who is Taylor Swift dating? Okay, fine, I still talk about those things too, but motherhood and pregnancy will now and forever be ranked as number one on my list of hot topics. So, we’re at the party, discussing the topic of getting pregnant and I mentioned how fertility treatment can be controversial to some people of various religious backgrounds. My friend Katherine, who never fails to be the voice of reason, turned to me and said, “well you know what… God lives in petri dishes too.” We all smiled, nodded our heads, and the subject soon shifted away. But what she said in that moment, I will never forget. Maybe what happens in petri dishes is highly controlled and solely based on the hands of doctors and embryologists. Or maybe miracles happen in petri dishes that nobody, even the doctors, can explain. Or maybe, just maybe, Katherine is right and God works in petri dishes too. Not a day goes by that I don’t fall to my knees and thank God, the universe, the powers that be, or anyone who is listening, that our little embryo #1, who spent the first five days of his existence living in a petri dish, is now an almost two-year old toddler who loves trains, reading books with daddy every night, and calling himself “baby” as he throws his arms around my neck.

So on this Thanksgiving weekend, I will be giving thanks once again to all of my many blessing, including the littlest one of all, who is no bigger than a poppy seed and is waiting patiently right over the bridge, at a clinic, in a petri dish. 

fall, fairs, & festivals

In Charleston you never can tell when fall ends and winter begins. The weather is pretty much the same and the temperatures around here never really drop until late into January. So as soon as November ends and we put away the orange pumpkins, replacing the house with all things green and red for Christmas, well that to me means fall is over and winter is here! My latest video is a quick four minute recap of the fall season that was filled with football games, pumpkin patches, festivals, the fair, and of course trick or treating! We had such a blast dressing Liam up as Max from “Where the Wild Things Are,” one of my favorite books to read to him. So much fun in fact, that we forgot to take any video during trick or treating! But stay tuned for the final few seconds if the video to see Max….err Liam…. as the wildest thing who ever went to story time at the library! Hope your fall was a fun and festive one and happy “winter” to you all!

Seasons Change but Somethings Stay the Same

This post was originally written for skirt! magazine’s contributing blogger series and was published at the end of the summer, but I thought I should share it here as well. Enjoy!

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When you live in a place like Charleston, where tank tops and beach days last all the way through December, every day can feel like a summer vacation. Somewhere in between the sunscreen and sandcastles, I blinked and suddenly we’re halfway through 2017. This time last year I was cooped up indoors with our new baby. And now here I am this summer with a wild little toddler. Seasons change and life moves along. And as I think about how fast time is moving, I’m reminded that my clock is ticking. Not just the little clock on my Apple watch but my 35 year old maternal clock.

Our journey towards getting pregnant with Liam was long and at times seemed hopeless. My dreams of wanting a big family started to diminish and I instead had begun to settle on: If I could just have one baby that would be fine. When you are trying to get pregnant, everything revolves around timing. You become obsessed over time.  Long days which turned into two very long weeks, waiting for a + sign to appear on a stick. And then nothing. And then more waiting two more long weeks to ovulate so you can try it again. And around and around it goes. When something is so dependent on timing, ironically time moves by very slowly.

So here we are again trying for baby No. 2. Trying to get pregnant for the second time seems like the same old song and dance. Some things never change: Ovulation sticks, fertility smoothies and hormone injections. But this time seems so difference. The anxiety, hopelessness, and fear are all gone. Before Liam, we felt like we were just waiting: waiting to be parents and never knowing if we ever would. But now that he is here, a weight has been lifted. Adding another baby would just be the icing on the cake of a beautiful little family that we already have.  We beat infertility once, maybe it will happen again. Maybe it won’t.  But if this curly haired kid has taught me anything, it’s that there’s not enough time in the day to feel sad, to be anxious, or to feel sorry for yourself. Those days are in the past.

The days may be long, but the years go by so fast. I am going to enjoy these days with my little family and not worry about the future. Because there is no where better to be than in the present. 

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Easy DIY flannel cape

The weather here in Charleston, SC has made its way down to the 40s and just in time for Liam’s I-refuse-to-wear-socks-and-shoes phase of toddlerhood, leading to moments of bribery and shouts of “well, then mama has to carry you!!” followed by tears and then “oh wow, mommy, look a bulldozer.” So nonetheless we took this chilly opportunity to bundle up and walk downtown to grab brunch, sporting my new handmade flannel cape. Socks and shoes optional, of course. I wasn’t sure how I would feel about the cape trend. I mean, really what is the deal…Are ya just wearing a blanket? Did your scarf and sweater have a baby and this is what popped out? And what in the world are you supposed to wear underneath? So you can see, I had some questions. But Jo’Anns Fabric was running a 50% off all flannel sale, so I bought this pretty red/black/gray combination for about $4 a yard and stared at if for over a month before deciding just to give it a go. And I am so glad I did. Not only is this a great gift idea (because sizing wouldn’t be such an issue), but it also has tons of campfire memories and winter maternity wardrobe potential. And both are things I would like to partake in again in the future, should I be so lucky.  DIY TUTORIAL:

  1. With your fabric laying out flat on the floor or table, mark the halfway point and cut a long slit, up the middle of the fabric length wise ). The cut part is your bodice front, the uncut part is now your bodice back.
  2. Cut the four corners of your fabric into a curve. I like to use an old CD to get the perfect curved shape but you can always just free-hand it.
  3. Fold your side edges in towards the wrong side twice and hem in place. You will also need to hem the slit that you cut down the middle.
  4. At this point, try your cape on and see how you want it to sit on your shoulders. I chose to pull the back down longer to make a high-low hem. But you could leave it even across the entire bottom hem). Once you’ve decided how you want it to fit, place a few pins  at a comfortable place below your arm holes at the side seams, and very carefully take the cape off.
  5. With wrong sides together, sew a line of stitches 5 inches across each side where the pins are and make sure to backstitch in place. This will mark the location of your arm-holes and keep the cape from sliding back or sliding off.
  6. Now you are done! Bundle up your family and head outside!

Hope you enjoyed this easy peasy tutorial and a real life, raw moment of parenting fail as I brought my crying, shoe-less child out into the cold (well it was a 46 degrees but you know, we have that Southern blood so anything below 60 is freezing to us. But have no fear, we shoved a croissant in front of him and he was humming a brand new tune in no time).  If anyone makes any capes of your own, please share a link to your photos in the comments below. I would love to see how you style yours! Until next time, xoxo Priscilla